How To Be Left Alone At Work - The Break Issue 56
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#56: How to be left alone at work
The Wall Street Journal contacted me a few weeks ago after the reporter read this post on LinkedIn:
That sparked a 1.5 hour interview with the reporter around strategies for being left alone at work, hehehe.
Turns out, its not just folks looking to break out of their careers, but a huge amount of people who want to stay at their jobs and just be able to do the work that matters!
They HATE the bureaucracy, micromanagement, coffee talk and ass kissing that typically come with working in a large corporate setting.
As I went for a nice fall stroll and talked to the reporter, I relayed my own journey and the tactics I implored to not only gain some separation, but carve out autonomous time to design my way out of corporate altogether.
I found it fitting because if you want to change the trajectory of your career, you need to get some space first.
This is Pillar 1 in my Advantage Mapping Foundations course - Detach from work.
These are the lessons we talked about.
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Carving out YOU time.
Decline All Optional Meetings:
If it says optional don't go. Get over that voice in your head that says, "but are these marked optional, but my boss is really keeping a tally?"
You need to free up valuable time to focus on tasks that truly matter. This approach not only increases your autonomy but also allows you to prioritize work that aligns with your goals and responsibilities.
2. Prep 5-10 Minutes Before a Meeting to Show You Are Prepared:
No one does this. The bar is so low. Use this time to review the meeting agenda, jot down any questions or contributions you plan to make, and ensure you're familiar with the relevant information.
By doing so, you not only demonstrate your commitment to the meeting's success but also show that you're proactive and self-reliant. You're showing your boss he doesn't have to worry about you. This increases your leverage to ask for more autonomy because he knows you can handle your shit.
3. Manage up:
Create a One-Page Document that shares:
work done in the last week
next up milestones
roadblocks or help needed
Consistently share this one-page document with your superiors, and link to archives of past installments. When you get untimely questions, train your bosses to refer to the document.
Over time they'll be less likely to disrupt your workflow with constant inquiries, allowing you to maintain your autonomy and focus on your work effectively.
4. Push Back on Meetings That Aren't Aligned with Your Objectives:
I did this all the time when I'd be invited to a meeting with 14 other people who were all equally not creating value in that meeting.
I would estimate the amount of money being spent on that one single meeting. I'd take everyone's estimated hourly rate and multiply it by the 1 hour.
Then I'd convert that amount into our company's products, in our case homeowner's insurance policies. Then I'd ask my boss if this meeting was worth X homeowner's policies, or if it was more important to spend an our on my objectives.
This process definitely made my boss reconsider how he was allocating resources!
5. Give Your Boss Alternatives:
This is a sneaky negotiating tactic. Highlight the opportunity cost of what he's asked you to do. The above meeting strategy is a form of opportunity cost analysis, but you can use it in other ways too.
Explain that the time spent in the meeting could be used for tasks that directly contribute to your projects, which, in turn, benefit the company's goals. then ask him to decide.
6. Set Your Communication Preferences and Timelines:
Set clear expectations of your preferred communication channels and response times.
define urgency levels
nudge people into your preferred channels
Here's how I did it:
Established that I communicate through phone, email, chat and only during work hours (because I get all my shit done between these hours)
If you need me now and will take a quick second, call me ON THE ACTUAL PHONE
For more information/reading email me, but I check email only twice per day. If urgent, follow up with a phone call to make sure I know it needs attention.
For mid range urgency, and low information needs - chat works, but expect a response within 2 hours.
This is can feel robotic, but it's designed to not allow communication creep, and protect your time. So you can choose your own creative work, or choose to not risk looking awkward.
Your choice, but growth, freedom and sanity are on the other side of looking awkward at work.
Here’s to breaking your old habits and becoming the best version of yourself!
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She's a mother of four who deeply felt this problem and was uniquely positioned to solve it. She just needed to figure out how. Ultimately instead of accepting the status quo, she decided to be a catalyst for change, and thank God she did.
Because she was entrenched in a 15+ year career in the corporate world, she could have packed it in and lived the good life. But she forged ahead driven by the purpose of empowering working mothers in the workplace.
Patrice's journey is one of resilience, innovation, and unwavering dedication to the well-being of working mothers everywhere. Her creation, MilkMate, is a testament to her commitment to positive change in the workplace.
So, stay tuned, folks! In our conversation with Patrice, we'll delve deeper into her journey, the incredible work of MilkMate, and the impact it's making on the lives of working mothers and their employers. You won't want to miss this inspiring discussion.
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